Peace for the Physicals

I have decided to start going for hypnotherapy. I didn’t really think it was something I a) needed or b) would work, but I felt the universe pushing me towards this and I am a firm believer in listening to the universe if you hear it shouting at you.

My 1^st session was taken up with my ‘therapist’ “S” getting to know me a bit – she asked a few questions and she did 2 ‘tests’. The 1^st was to determine whether I was a ‘right brain’ or a ‘left brain’ person as there are different approaches the therapist will use for the 2 different types.

I am almost smack dab in the middle which I found rather interesting. I think that is my Virgo sun and my Gemini moon which drive those 2 opposites. My logical Virgo and my scatty Gemini battling for supremacy? Nice to know some part of me is well balanced at least!

The other test was to determine whether I fall into an ‘emotional’ or a ‘physical’ relationship model personality type.

If asked without understanding what the 2 meant, I would have guessed I was an ‘emotional’ as I am a volatile, easily triggered person who reacts first and thinks second. However she does a very long questionnaire and we discovered that I am a 98% physical.

The 'physicals' have these core values, prioritised as follows:

1)      Relationship / sex

2)      Family

3)      Friends

4)      Career / financial security

Career and financial security are only important as they enable me to have my family and relationship here in SA.

My primary need is to be loved and I need romantic gestures. This really surprised me as I am sooo not a romantic. But I do thrive on the validation which Mr Kitten gives me – he tells me daily I am beautiful and that he loves me. He seldom buys me flowers however he will make me coffee in bed and buy me choccies, so those are good enough for me on the ‘gesture’ front!

My primary fear is rejection or abandonment.

I found this all very enlightening.

We did do a brief session of hypnotherapy and she took me to meet my inner child. Then she asked me to visualise a word – I had no conscious thought of where this word was generated, but the word ‘peace’ came into my head.

So this is my word to help me reprogram my inner child ‘dysfunction’. She is helping me to understand why I react in the way I do to outside triggers, and hopefully to get to a point where I react only to the actual situation without overlying my previous history onto each current situation and therefore react irrationally.

In other words, she is trying to help me find that inner peace I so desperately seek.