Last night I went to a hypnosis event, there was a speaker over from Portugal who is a psychiatrist (I think? or a therapist?) annyyyway, she is here and she was presenting on 'Deep Healing in Altered States' and just talked about some of her personal experiences with treating people.
One of the things she mentioned was a patient who was coming to her for phobia of fires, she could not even bear to be in the same room when a fire was lit. She regressed her patient and found that she had been in a fire - when she was still in the uterus!
The patient had no knowledge of this, but she rang her mom to ask her and found out that yes, when her mom was 5 months pregnant she was in a fire. By discovering the root of the issue she was able to heal the patient.
I found this fascinating as my daughter has been seeing a therapist for her anxiety issues. She is the only one of my 3 kids who has these issues with fear and anxiety, yet she comes off as the most confident of the three.
When I was pregnant with her, her father had beaten me so badly that he dislocated my shoulder. He was kicking me and punching me, I curled up into a tight ball to protect the baby and luckily all the damage was done to me, not her.
But then maybe she did get damaged - maybe her soul has been damaged. Maybe the high levels of fear I felt were passed to her - and she has internalised this energy?
However, she has no idea of the depth of the abuse I suffered from her father. I do not want her to know that. Not because of shame, not because of anything other than I don't want that to contaminate her relationship with her father. The damage he did to me and the issues we had between us were between us. I always felt that the 2 parents in a divorce should not involve the children in their dramas.
But now I am in a sticky spot - do I tell her this? Do I speak directly to the therapist and not tell C? I just want to help her heal - I do not want to rake up any past issues for her to deal with.
Any advice is welcome - even from you secret readers who never comment or tell me you read my blogs....I know you are there! I am asking the universe for advice and I await the response.....if you are my messenger then come chat.
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I think you are right not involving them in what happened between you and their father, and I totally understand it. But imagine if C is hypnotised one day or something happens that she works this out for herself... or she reads this blog... do you think she would accept your reasons? I reckon, discuss her therapy with her, and if you think she is hitting a brick wall with it and your insights can help, maybe you can find a good way to tell her some of it without destroying her relationship with her father - but I think you may have to do this WITH the therapist. So you will have to discuss it with the therapist beforehand? (just my two cents.. i don't have any experiences with anything like this - just concerned for you..) (hugs)R
ReplyDeleteThanks 'R' - funny enough last night she mentioned (out of the blue) that her psychiatrist does not think she should go for regression therapy as he has the opinion of 'if your memory is not ready for revealing things, then there is a reason for this' and not to push it. So for now I will let her carry on with her psychiatrist and see how she progresses.
ReplyDeleteAs for reading my blogs, my kids are totally not interested in me and my ramblings :)
Thank you for your input