He said, She said

The last couple of weeks has felt a bit like I am living in one of those jokes with ‘His Story’ and ‘Her Story’ where the 2 people experienced exactly the same things but interpreted it completely different.

I can understand Mr K defending his friend when all of the women in the house are annoyed by him. But when I mentioned that our visitor ‘J’ was ‘taking advantage’ Mr K blew up and started saying this wasn’t true.

This is when we realized that our memories of the previous week were completely misaligned.

His story:

The night we went for a group dinner at the Lookout, ‘J’ didn’t pay for his dinner, but he then paid for the next meal. Every other time ‘J’ has paid his own way, he put in petrol, he bought a crate of beer.

Her story:

The night we went for a group dinner at the Lookout, ‘J’ didn’t pay for his dinner, I did. (full stop) The next time we went out was the following morning when we went for a coffee and ‘J’ treated us to a coffee. The next time we went out for a full dinner, ‘J’ was short and paid half his bill, Mr K even said ‘ok well you owe Lisa x’ but that was the last I heard of that debt.

Despite us taking ‘J’ on sightseeing trips all over Cape Town from Simon’s Town to Hermanus I have NEVER seen him offer petrol money.

Every night ‘J’ drinks at least 6 or 7 beers, so I hope this ‘crate’ of beer is a magical one, never depleting or ‘J’ is now sucking down our booze supply every night.

When we had our Halloween party 'J' did spend some money - he bought a crap load of some of the stinkiest, smelliest, retch making cheeses in the universe which makes me ill every time I go near my fridge.

End story.

I know they say we are blind to the things we do not want to see, but come on!? How could we be so divergent in our understanding of the events under our noses?

What makes me sad is that Mr K goes away on Friday for a month. He is travelling for work and attending conferences and visiting his Mom.

We’ve had hardly any time together in the last few weeks and when we have it has been tense and strained.

I hope he comes back.